The first Friday of 2018 was the most important TV event of the year: Will & Grace made its long-awaited comeback in the UK.
It was a big day for two reasons. Firstly, I love Will, Grace, Karen and Jack (to be honest, the latter two are my favourites and I think the show should be called Karen & Jack). Secondly, one of the worst finales in the TV history got finally rectified (“That never happened!”).
I’m someone who grew up with TV. My parents probably thought I would become a better person watching TV shows than listening to what they had to say. I couldn’t agree more.
The Will & Grace comeback made me reflect what I learnt about (gay) life watching the show in my late teens and early twenties.
- It’s OK to be camp. When I first got to know Jack, I thought he was too camp. I had been working my ass off to lose my camp qualities to, at first, pass as a straight person, and then to be more attractive to gay men. But there he was prancing around on TV and embracing his campness! Later in life Jack became my role model. I learnt that if you’re a bit camp, at least the man of your dreams doesn’t have to waste time wondering if you’re gay or not.
- A gay man is a straight woman’s best friend. But he can’t replace a boyfriend and he shouldn’t. Same goes the other way round. I think the dynamics between Karen and Jack works better than that between Will and Grace. Karen and Jack’s relationship is about fun, sharing, and caring – pretty much like Will and Grace’s but without the complexity of building a family that they both would prefer to have with a romantic partner.
- Gay relationships don’t have to be similar to straight relationships. Straight and gay people should have the same rights as couples but why should all relationships, gay or straight, follow the ideals of which has become a traditional straight relationship? Let’s at least save the gays from that baggage! Will seems to struggle with how to live a straight life as a gay man whereas Jack embraces his gay life.
- It’s valuable to have a gay friend you never slept with. I find the sexual tension between Will and Jack interesting. Labelling is not cool but I can’t help but wonder if both of them are bottoms. There’s been some tension between them but it has never materialised. I say good for them! Friends with benefits is one thing but sex doesn’t always benefit a friendship.
- Jokes are more fun when you’re a good person. The fact that you treat other people with love and respect allows you to tell jokes that are dirty, questionable, and even politically not correct. That’s because your audience knows you have good intentions and you are probably just mocking people with idiotic views. How much fun!